Five things that occasionally make me sad:
I will never be able to look at one of my kids and see my eyes or my features… or make comments like, “You get your sass from your Momma!”
I think our 50/50 schedule is great for the kids now, but what about when they’re older? I think they’ll need a home base… but how will we ever be able to prove that our home is the best to be that home base? And at that point, the kids will be old enough to know what’s going on… will it really be best to drag them through a court custody battle in their tween years?!
Will my family/friends/colleagues ever think I’m a legitimate parent, or do people just think I’m an idiot?
BM is a pathological liar and master manipulator… when the kids are older and she fills their head with lies to turn them against me and DH, how will we ever combat that, without speaking negatively of their mom to them?? Ugh.
Will my husband and I ever go on a [really late] tropical honeymoon? Or will there always be something to prioritize over that? Man, I want that getaway!!
Five things that typically make me happy, when the above items are holding me down:
I probably don’t want to push a baby with a big head like mine out anyway… I saw my sister do that (3x) and the first time was brutal and involved some sort of medical vacuum…? Gross.
I think no matter where the girls lay their heads more frequently as teenagers, they will always know DH and I are loving and reliable, and as they become adults, our relationships will be strong.
It really doesn’t matter what anyone other than my DH and SD’s think! I don’t know why that is so much easier to say than to believe… but that’s the truth.
No matter what BM ever says or does… DH and I can only control what we do and say. No matter how rocky things get, if DH and I are consistent, loving, and reasonable with the girls, our adult relationships will be beautiful.
Even if DH and I never get a tropical getaway, hopefully I’ll enjoy whatever we are prioritizing over that! For example, a Las Vegas Christmas is a possibility for this year… so I should probably stop complaining about us having never been to the islands…
Remember, there are two sides to every coin… it’s all about perspective!